Reviewed by Nandita Keshavan for Readers' Favorite
ReLovenship™ Look Within to Love Again! is an excellent book by Mario and Diane Cloutier which emphasises the importance of taking control of your thoughts and goals before seeking a potential partner. This book advocates the need to become reacquainted with oneself and learn to truly love oneself before seeking a partner. As a step by step guide, written from the male and female perspectives, the advice is refreshingly sound and direct and I had many views in common with the authors.
The Cloutiers share their life stories, show you their logic, and give several examples. The strong messages are intended to lead people to better self-awareness, and help them to identify the path that will most likely give the best results. Examples of truly insightful parts of the book are the “liberating secrets” and the importance of being surrounded by positive people. On a practical note, there is great advice on meeting people and screening them to find out if they really meet your criteria. Another touching and also practical point is Mario's advice to men on dating women showing leadership qualities - how this is best perceived and how it can be used to build a solid foundation in a relationship.
Being spiritual myself, I found that there were many beautiful and profound concepts and I can personally identify with the approach of taking courage from one's faith. Being a Hindu, I was pleased to see the term “dharma yuddha” or righteous war being used at the very start. Regardless of your faith, this book is intended to instill a definite sense of a spiritual war happening within, a war that will help you to overcome your blocks and fears and help you achieve your full potential.
The book advocates being firm in your resolve to find the right partner without being devoid of care and respect towards people who may not suit your goals. Often the advice of the book takes on a “no settlements, no compromises” attitude regarding people holding out for the type of partner they would like to be with. I found this inspirational and useful for people who suffered difficult relationships in the past and find themselves less willing to compromise on the kind of person they would like to be with. At the same time, it's equally useful to someone who is starting out and is looking for a more focused approach to dating.
The book encourages self introspection as a powerful tool, and encourages people to clearly define their gratitudes, beliefs, values and priorities. After all, how can you know if a person is right for you if you have not gotten to know yourself? You will get maximum benefit from this book if you use these tools and approach the principles with an open mind. Also, it's worth saying that this book is intended for people searching for a meaningful long term relationship. The tone of the book is meaningful, clear and direct. I hope this book will inspire people to create a powerful intention of being happy, successful and finding the right partner.